24/7 support

  • Crisis Clinic (866-427-4747) or (866) 789-1511

  • WA Warm Line, Online Peer Support: https://www.crisisconnections.org/wa-warm-line

  • Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Sexual Assault Hot line: (800) 656-HOPE

  • National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs: (212) 714-1141 (English and Spanish)

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233

  • Trans Lifeline: (877) 565-8860

  • GLBT National Hotline: (888) 843-4564

  • GLBT National Youth Talk-line: (800) 246-7743

  • DeHQ: LGBTQ Helpline for South Asians: (908) 367-3374

  • Solid Ground Housing, Food, and Social Justice Advocacy: (206) 694-6700

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What is effective therapy?

In this article at PsychologyToday.com called, "10 Ways to Spot a Good Therapist," Dr. Noam Shpancer outlines 10 salient points to consider when engaging in therapy.

  1. Effective therapy is about the client, not the therapist.

  2. Effective therapy follows patterns, course-corrects, and is responsive to new knowledge. It is also inherently creative, dynamic, and adaptive.

  3. Effective therapy affirms your inherent dignity and worthiness and seeks to support your strengths and values.

  4. Effective therapy seeks to encourage accurate, honest, and timely feedback in ways that model respect, courage, and connectedness.

  5. Effective therapy works to affirm the rapport between the client and the therapist.

  6. Effective therapy promotes and encourages the client's independence and competence.

  7. Effective therapy takes the whole into account; it considers the system, context, and scope of the client's current life, history, and biography.

  8. Effective therapy acknowledges the client's unique strengths, perspective, and position in their world.

  9. Effective therapy is "self-therapy." The client is the expert of their experience and so the more they're invested in the work, the more effective is the process.

  10. Effective therapy offers support, facilitates action, and requires learning.

What do i mean by…

MINDFULNESS: “An operational working definition of mindfulness is: the awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of experience moment to moment.” - Jon Kabat-Zinn (Mindfulness-based Interventions in Context, 2003)

SPIRITUALITY: “Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning, and purpose to our lives.” - Brené Brown (The Gifts of Imperfection, 2010).

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
— Jalal ad-Din Rumi